10 steps to Managing your Motivation & finding Joy this Christmas
The lethargy many of us are feeling as this rollercoaster-year is drawing to a close is hard going. Whilst we’re all doing our best to find the motivation to finish the year off right and get into the spirit of a somewhat different Christmas, there is no doubt that 2020 has taken its toll on us all in mind, body and spirit.
We caught up with Confidence & Mindest coach, Jenna O’Keefe in search for tips to combat the covid blues and lift our spirits this December…
Let’s face it, the novelty of working in pyjamas has worn off. Your tolerance for passive-aggressive emails has never been lower and I don’t know about you but I’ve just had Zoom Christmas Karaoke invite in Outlook and I’ve been googling how I can fake my own death to excuse my polite ‘tentative’ reply (any recommendations here are welcome).
If you are reading this and you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed or even just a little fatigued don’t worry, you are in the right place and the most important thing to know is you are not alone.
There’s a lot that feels out of control at the moment but here are 10 steps you can take to raise your vibration and keep motivated in uncertain times.
Track your emotions
Start to take notes on how you’re feeling regularly. Record the moments that made you feel good, what were you doing, who were you with? Also, record the moments you didn’t feel so good. What was the trigger for you? Look back over your journal and start to spot patterns which come up for you. Is there a particular person or activity that’s triggering you? Journalling can give you a real insight into your soul and it taps into what’s going on for you under the surface.
Dial-up the self-care
I firmly believe self-care is how you take your power back. Your ego will tell you it’s not ok to pause and rest. It will tell you that cleaning the house is more important or firing off some extra emails and ticking off the other 100 things on your to-do list.
Be strict with this one and carve out some precious time for you, curl up with a good book take a nap watch ‘This is Us’ on Amazon Prime (it’s brilliant!) allow your body to rest and she will thank you for it.
Create a vision board
If you want to create the life of your dreams, you’ve got to get specific on what you want. Where do you want to live? What holidays do you want to go on? What does your house look like? You can create a digital vision board using the app ‘Canva’ or go old school like me and buy a pinboard.
Spend some time collecting images that make you feel good and excited. This is a great way to raise your motivation and keep your energy high!
Have a social media clear out
In a recent study by Stylist, they found 1 in 3 women follow influencers on social media even though they make them feel bad about themselves. We check our phones on average 400 times a day, so when you do the maths how many times are you subconsciously comparing yourself to strangers on the internet?
Instagram’s cottoned on and created the ‘Mute’ feature – so you can mute anybody (even friends!) who leave you feeling worse. Take this as your sign to have an early Spring Clean of who you’re choosing to follow on Instagram. Instead, replace them with incredible women like @alexlight_ldn @tallyrye @stephanieyeboah.
Mindfully consume media
It’s very easy to get caught up in the media shit storm surrounding the pandemic, the US election, Christmas etc etc etc but this is an important reminder that newspapers are literally making money by making you feel like it’s the end of the world. Clickbait titles sell more papers.
Have you ever heard the phrase ‘If it bleeds, it leads’? Fear-based media is designed to create panic and uncertainty because it = £££. So be mindful of how often you check the news, and the media you’re choosing to consume.
Track your cycle
Women are cyclical creatures and although we understand PMS, very few women are taught the impact your cycle can have on your mental health throughout the month. It sounds scientific, but it’s actually very easy and there are some amazing apps to help (Clue, Moody Month, and Flo).
Tracking your cycle empowers you to work with your body’s phases instead of against them. I do this by scheduling deadlines and big pieces of work in line with my peak (when I’m ovulating) and I wind down work and social commitments in my ‘winter’ phase when I’m bleeding.
Share your worries
There is no shame in finding this time difficult. Sharing your worries and troubles with a trusted friend or professional can help reduce feelings of shame and not only that, it inspires others to feel safe to share their feelings too. It’s a gift of connection with others and also empowering for you.
Use this time to take stock
2020 isn’t the year any of us would have chosen but we have been forced to get off the hamster wheel and re-evaluate what’s going on for us. What is it that you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time? Could you use this as your opportunity to explore the creative pursuit you’ve always dreamed of? Take a course? (The Centre of Excellence are currently offering all of their courses at a discounted rate of £29!)
How often has your daily walk been bumped off your to-do list because you’ve had a deadline? Or you’ve left it too late and it’s dark? One of the best ways to shift up your energy is to move your body. Find interesting and exciting ways to motivate yourself to get your steps in. Find an amazing podcast, buy a beautiful keep cup and take your morning coffee on a stroll instead of drinking it at home.
Jenna O’Keefe is a Confidence & Mindset Coach and the Founder of The Positivity Project. She’s on a mission to help ambitious women break up with their inner critic and step into their power. Her coaching goes deep into inner child and shadow healing and she guides her client’s through transformational change where they create unshakeable confidence from the inside out.
If you enjoyed these points from Jenna, check out our chat with Claire Sanderson, Editor in Chief of Women’s Health UK on mindset, here.
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