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    The Psychology of Seduction

    The Psychology of Seduction

    What first attracts us to a potential partner? How does seduction work? And do you believe in the fairytale esque of love at first sight?

    Sexual wellness brand, LELO, has some advice to help. They surveyed over 2,000 adults* across the UK to find out what they like and dislike when meeting a potential partner, and if they believe in the age old question of love at first sight.

    Cameron Diaz - Seduction

    Physical appearance is of course important – but we are looking for someone to make us giggle too.

    Physical appearance (58%) is predictably what gets our motor running. But don’t despair if you don’t feel you lucked out in the genes department as humour was the second most alluring quality closely followed by intelligence – maybe we are all sapiosexuals.

    What attracts you most to a person? (Top 5)

    Physical appearance
    Sexual energy

    And what kind of seduction techniques do we like most?

    When asked about popular seduction techniques, complimenting the person tickling your fancy and then casually brushing their hand, all the while maintaining steady eye contact seems to be the tried and true way of seducing someone.

    Eye contact
    Casual touching

    Flattery goes a long way. Poor hygiene doesn’t.

    We will not waste too many words with this one, except say you cannot be dirty if you want to get down. Well, have a dirty body that is. You would expect that people are most afraid of STDs or getting hurt (in fact, only about 2% of those surveyed have those concerns), but whooping 9 out 10 people find poor hygiene a deal-breaker without any exception. Still, bear in mind that this does not apply to a dirty mind. Rumour has it, that one is usually an asset.

    Can sex ever just be sex?

    Moving on from one night stands and to casual fun. We asked the UK if they could have sex but not catch feelings. Four out of ten Brits (39%) so apparently not.

    Love at first sight? It’s 50/50

    The concept of falling in love the very moment you see another person is an age old debate and Brits are pretty equally divided on the subject with 52% believing that it can happen and 48% saying no chance!

    To one night stand or not?

    According to this latest research six out of ten Brits (66%) have had a one night stand but maybe it’s a sign of the times that 62% said that they seldom had them now. But 8% are having them regularly either weekly or monthly.

    Marcella Zanchi, Marketing Manager for LELO UK says “It’s not so surprising that sexting is one of the seduction techniques that lure Brits in, especially during the current climate with many couples and singles have to resort to phone or video sex with Covid 19 restrictions. If you’re looking for a cupping buddy, we hope this insight helps you find someone to snuggle with, and if not, you always have a LELO!”

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