What Does Your Wedding Day Say About You?
With most couples going to Pinterest and Instagram to seek their wedding inspiration, it is important to make sure that your wedding day represents you as a couple and not just a carbon copy of your board.
Though a few of your guests will remember the food that you served or flowers that were on the tables, it is the personal touches that will be thought about long after the big day. So, with that in mind, here is my guide to personalising your wedding day.
Your love story
The history of your relationship is a great way to personalise your day.
This could be done through a polaroid style photo display of when you first met, favourite holidays and milestones such as your first home.
The funnier the better.
That said, there have been some questionable photos taken at hens and stags included – clearly they forgot the all-important rule – ‘What happens on tour…’! My favourite website to use is Inkifi as the quality is great so they can be framed after the wedding. Buy an instant camera so that your guests can add to the display and your love story.
Another fun way of telling your love story is through a quiz that can be put on each table. This works especially well when you have people that don’t know each other sitting together, as it acts as a fun conversation starter.
Deviate from the normal ‘Where did we meet?’ and instead get people talking and hopefully laughing with questions like ‘What did X make Y get rid of when they moved in together?’
Answers can be given during the speeches with a novelty prize for the winning table. (For those of you wondering, the answer was ten years of disgusting festival wristbands, still being worn.)
Interests and Hobbies
I have seen weddings personalised beautifully when couples show off their interests, skills and talents.
Table plans created out of cricket bats, table names of favourite ski resorts and wedding stationery inspired by Wes Anderson films.
Though I would always try to steer clear of a themed wedding, little nods to the things you love help to make the day all about you.
Showing off your talents will always make your guests happy – get up on the stage and perform with the band (from my experience they are always happy to rehearse in advance). You could even get your talented friends to perform with you – a bride performing with her drumming band is a spectacular way to get the party started.
Whatever your talent is, find a way to incorporate it into the day. If you are going to do some sort of performance, try to keep it a secret from as many guests as possible for maximum impact. People love a good surprise!
Finally, put those lockdown crafts to good use – some examples I have seen emerging on the hashtag #lockdownhobby are flower pots in macrame hangers, air dried clay decorations, hand-painted stationery or embroidered names on napkins.
Culture and Heritage
A great way to personalise your wedding is by allowing a part of your day to focus on your culture of heritage.
This could mean including specific customs into the marriage ceremony or serving a traditional dish as part of the wedding breakfast. Enjoy delving into your culture and talking to members of your families to create interesting, fun and delicious ways to celebrate who you are and what you are entering into through your union.
Other ways that I have seen this done on a smaller scale but was equally touching, included giving Tunock’s tea cakes as favours, using Ghanaian handwoven cloth as ribbons on flower girl dresses and toasting with sake from Japan – a sure-fire way to get 100 people drunk very quickly!
My main advice when personalising weddings in this way is to choose your wedding suppliers carefully to ensure authenticity rather than cultural appropriation.
It is the little details that really help to personalise your wedding.
From the flowers you select to the background music that you play, consider how you can make it unique to you.
I had my wedding ring made so that it was similar to my mums (both were made by my talented aunt).
I walked down the aisle to ‘Something in the way she moves’ by James Taylor. It was played in my dad’s car when we were kids and our table flowers were little terracotta pots of daffodils – a nod to my husband being a gardener.
Our wedding signs were lyrics from songs by bands that played at the festival where we met – and the dessert was an Oxford mess (rather than an Eton mess) as that is where I am from.
To most guests, these little details won’t be obvious, but they are all important elements that make it your day.
Photography by https://www.nataliejweddings.com
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